This is my blog.
These are my goals.
“The chance reading of a book or of a paragraph in a newspaper can start a man on a new track and make him renounce his old associations and seek new ones …
and the result, for that man, can be an entire change of his way of life.”
My goal is to make people safer through this blog. Just like Mr. Twain wrote above. Someone reads something and thinks about it. If it’s provocative enough, it’ll stimulate brain activity, expand awareness, educate the reticular cortex… and voila, like it or not, they’re safer. And this applies to the layperson and expert alike. An intelligent dissection and discussion will make you safer if you commit to the discussion.
In the beginning
I’ve been thinking about self-defense since I was 6 years old. Back in the 60’s you didn’t really know what fighting was. It wasn’t mainstream like it is today. It was all I thought about. I was consumed by it. I was always imagining what I’d do if someone was hiding around that corner, always scanning and sizing people up, wondering what I’d do if… I thought I was weird and kept it to myself, never spoke about it because, frankly, no one spoke about it back then. Fighting infatuated me. The movement, the power, but it was mostly the fear that intrigued me. Fear of losing, fear of violence…
I started wrestling when I was 9 or 10. Then in 1973, during the Bruce Lee craze, I got hooked on martial arts. The only martial art school in my area was a Chong Lee Tae Kwon Do affiliate. I joined and trained every day for years. After a meaningless, testosterone-inspired fight in high school, I realized my TKD back-fist needed back-up, which lead me to start boxing. I was 15. I fell in love with boxing – chess with muscles at 100mph – you got stung when you zigged instead of zagged. I loved sparring and I loved getting hit. As much as I loved martial arts, so much of it was technical. In the ring, there was no more choreographed theory. Virtual become visceral.
When I was 15ish, my Mom asked me what I was going to be when I grew up? lawyer? doctor?. I told her, “Mom, I’m going to develop my own self-defense system, like Bruce Lee.” She smiled and literally pat me on the head and said,“OK dear, we’ll talk about this when you’re a little older.”
I haven’t stopped since then, close to 50 years of passion, infatuation, discipline, but more importantly, investigation. I question everything, I weigh & consider and introspect, this way I understand both the subject and the substance. Today, 5 decades later, after being transfixed by Robert Conrad as Jim West punch out bad guys in the original Wild Wild West & Bruce Lee as Kato them,ping thugs on the Green Hornet I’m still training, practicing, and coaching but most importantly, I’m still learning. And this year I had a realization:
Self-defense isn’t fighting.
…to be continued
Next blog I’ll be sharing thoughts on:
1. If self-defense isn’t fighting, what is it?
2. My big realization after my first student got his ass-kicked (actually, it was his face that got punched, that was a metaphor).
3. The world’s first functional definition for self-defense
Geography prevents many people from training with me, my team or affiliates. Finances may restrict many from attending courses, buying digital media or ultimately, purchasing High Gear for the most realistic level or stress-inoculation. But almost everyone has access to the internet. I hope you enjoy these ramblings. And please share them with family, friends, and colleagues.
*If you have a specific question please email it to [email protected] and I’ll try to feature it in an upcoming blog post.
Lastly, some rules about comments and discussions:
1. When I post a thought it’s to inspire introspection and invite discussion (even if the discussion is with yourself, in your head.).
2. Weigh and consider before you react. If you ‘react’, if you read something that pushes a button, creates some defiant reaction, might I suggest you meditate on that clue.
3. If you read something you don’t like, ask yourself ‘why?’. And if you write something, might I suggest you sleep on the reply before you hit ‘send’.
4. If you decide to post a comment because you don’t like something, explain why.
5. If you decide to post a comment because you like something, explain why.
6. Let’s have fun but let’s grow and improve awareness, vocabulary and intrapersonal skills.
About Coach B.
Coach Tony Blauer is one of the only personal defense & combatives experts who has successfully affected training across all the combat related communities: self-defense, combat sports and the military & law enforcement sector. His research on physiology, mindset as it relates to confrontation management has inﬂuenced over three decades of reality-based martial artists.
Enjoy this montage from Coach Blauer.